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Time in safe vault
B Krishna Kumar, March 16, 2017
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I was born and brought up in Delhi, where I lived with my parents and younger sister. My grandmother lived in a remote town down south. As a kid, before I started school, we would travel many times in a year from Delhi to visit my grandmother. I used to enjoy these three-day train journeys.

Once I began schooling, we would visit only during the summer vacations. It was always fun to be there and my grandmother ensured that she prepared umpteen delicacies for us. But more than that, it was just being close to her that gave us the familiar comfort of her love and affection.

It was customary to visit temples when we were there, and we would take grandmother with us. She had a highly restricted diet because of which we used to "carry the kitchen" with us. We would stop at a nearby village and my mother would lay the kitchen and cook for us.

Years passed by but our holiday destination remained the same every summer. My grandmother grew weak and stopped coming out with us. More number of years passed by and I stopped visiting as I had increased responsibilities of studies and exams.

One day, she passed away. My mother and sister travelled from Delhi to join my father, who had been there by my grandmother's side when we lost her. I, however, stayed back in my friend's house. Life went on, but we did not have any place to go to during the holidays. I settled down when I got my first job and married some years later.

It's been 35 years since. Today, I sit back and wonder what I missed in life. I was quite young when I would visit my grandmother frequently and as I grew up, time with her was limited.

If only we had the capability to have our beautiful moments saved in a "safe vault" which we could open whenever needed. We never realise the value of time when we are small and long for it when we need it the most as adults.

Today, my mother is a grandmother of two lovely grown up children. I lost my father last year. Life has come a full circle as my children do not have time to spend with my mother. It sometimes pains me to see this but their situation resonates with my own past. I may have learnt lessons for the future but they come too late for the present. It may not be too far along when I would be right in the middle of such a situation.

All our lives, we strive to strike a balance between work and life, and while we retire from work, life goes on. It is important that we spend quality time with those who are dear to us. We will be blessed if we recognise this early and don't lose the adorations due to us.

I long for my children to carve out sometime for their grandmother and do not want them to write an anecdote like this 50 years hence. The philosophy of life may be to come and leave alone. In between though, our children can carry those fixed deposit of memories to be passed on to the next generations.